Friday, 1 November 2019

Remembering Alex and Ian 12

It is 12 years since our sons Alex and Ian were stillborn. We miss them always and they have missed so much life they might have lived. They would have been about to finish primary school but instead we remember their death as well as their birthday.

As always on their birthday I share links I have seen About pregnancy loss. Each year there is more and more written.  (Apologies for typos. I have computer troubles.)

When people don’t want to talk about your child it feels very lonely, The Age, 28 January 2019.

A stillborn baby, nine years of IVF and more than $100,000: the trauma of infertility, by Susan, ABC news, 3 August 2019.

We had no idea how much physical danger stillbirth can cause by Hannah Harris Green, Rewire.News, 14 August 2019.

Please find some words for me: the conversations that helped after our son’s stillbirth , by Lucy Biggs, The Guardian, 17 August 2019.

Stillborn twin daughters spurred Hana and Scott Baker to raise money to study neonatal death , by Caen Cluff, The Courier, 13 August 2019.

'I was in a tiny bubble of horror.' Annabel's story of saying goodbye to her newborn baby/, Nama Winston, MamaMia, 21 July 2019

'It was all ripped away': The cruel irony of the '12-week rule' by Sophie Aubrey in The Age, 13 October 2019

How one couple found  strength after their son’s stillbirth, by Jason Om in ABC Life, 14 November 2018.

What to consider when announcing a pregnancy or miscarriage online, by Kellie Scott, ABCLife, 26 November 2019.

Born sleeping: how I grieved for the much-loved daughter I lost before her birth, by Devika Bhat,  The Guardian, 28 October 2019.


  1. Sending you much love across the oceans, Johanna.

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  3. Love and comfort for you and your family on this day especially. I'm thinking about how Alex and Ian would have wanted to celebrate their eleventh [deleted old comment to fix that number, whoops my brain] birthday -- you must have so many more thoughts and feelings about that and everything else that might have been.

  4. sending you hugs from across the seas. you pay tribute to your sons by posting about them every year - it is a potent rememberance of their lives and importance. I know they live in your heart and sould but when they are not here to wrap your arms around that sometimes affords little comfort.

    my thoughts are with you.

  5. Thinking of you Johanna xxox

  6. I think your posts about your sons are always beautiful, and thought provoking, and warm. You write so eloquently about what could be a difficult subject.

  7. My thoughts are with you Johanna.

  8. So very sad. Nothing more difficult than the loss of a child and in your case, two precious boys. Sending lots of love to you at this very difficult time xx

  9. So so important to share this. Love & hugs xx


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