Monday, 1 November 2021

Remembering Alex and Ian 14

Today is the anniversary of our twin boys' stillbirth.  Alex and Ian would have turned 14 years old today and as the time passes, I get less and less sure of what their life would look like.  I am having a small lunch to remember them.  Always loved.  Always missed.

As I do every year, I share some articles I have seen related to stillbirth and grief:

The things I would’ve liked to have known before delivering my stillborn child by Rebecca Zwier in Women's Agenda, October 2021

Japanese Buddhist priest, wife support other couples after their own stillbirth experience by Sahomi Nishimoto in The Mainchi, 25 October 2021

The Unimaginable: Pregnancy and Infant Loss in Psychiatric Practice by Julia Riddle and Jennifer Payne in Psychiatric Times, 30 October 2021

Nobody Wants To Talk About It When A Baby Dies. Here’s Why We Need To by Kate Suddes in the HuffPost, 25 October 2021

Our baby’s life began and ended the second he was born by Annabel Bower in The Age newspaper, 26 October 2020 (also see her book Miles Apart)

‘Your baby’s heart has stopped’: hell and healing after the stillbirth of my son by Katie Allen in The Guardian, 10 June 2021

Mum's agony as she's told her son was stillborn while her family were kept outside due to Covid restrictions - as lockdown measures heighten the heartbreak for mothers by Alice Murphy in Daily Mail Australia, 13 August 2021

Mums who gave birth to stillborn babies surrounded by healthy ones say it's ‘the worst thing in the world' by Sylvie Wilkinson in My London, 9 September 2021

"You should focus on your living children": What I struggled with the most after losing my son by Ann Marie Imrie in Mama Mia, 18 September 2021.


  1. Thinking of you and Alex and Ian, and sending love today!

  2. Sending hugs and thoughts Johanna to you and your family xxx

  3. Hugs to you and your family Johanna. It’s lovely that you remember them every year in this way.

  4. Thank you for continuing to share this anniversary with us in your posts. Sending my warmest wishes.

  5. Thank you for sharing this anniversary with us, sending you lots of love xxx


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