Today it is three years since our twin sons, Alex and Ian were stillborn. I wish that they were alive, and we were celebrating their birthday with them. Instead we remember them and the life they haven’t had.
This year I first heard about the Youruba people in West Africa. They have the highest likelihood of having (non-identical) twins in the world and a correspondingly high rate of infant death. When their twins die they have a statue carved (called the Ere Ibeji) to represent each dead child. It sounds like a fine tradition to me.
Our own traditions are more modest and consist of gathering with family yesterday to eat birthday cake in memory of our boys. More on this soon. Happy Birthday Alex and Ian!
Previously on Green Gourmet Giraffe:
This time in 2009: Remembering Alex and Ian
This time in 2008: Ripple in Still Water